Thursday, March 7, 2013

Are We Door Mats?

   On the way home last night, my mom and I were talking about this book she's doing with a bible study called "Love and Respect" (If you have any interest in ever getting married or are already married, you should really read this. It's about how men need respect and women need love.), while discussing this, the topic of a woman's place came up.

  From my understanding of the Bible the husband is to be the head of the household, the spiritual leader, the final decision maker, the bread winner.Like wise, the wife is to be homemaker, mother, support for her husband. If she thinks he's doing something wrong, she's to bring it to his attention, but ultimately it's his decision.

  Now, I understand that not all situations permit all women to be stay at home mothers/wives. Sometimes you have to have that extra income to make ends meet. It's my belief though, that before putting your kids in day care, you look for some type of work you can do from home so that you can still fully be a homemaker.

  The wife is to be submissive to her husband. That means that he's in-charge  but you use your moral compass and if you feel something is wrong you bring it to his attention. Being submissive isn't about letting him walk all over you, it's understanding that you were made as a help mate, a companion.

  With the feminist movement, it seems like everywhere we look, they're pushing strong women. There is absolutely nothing wrong with strong women. The problem comes when she's taking the man's place.

  I think it's great that we now have women doctors, lawyers, business women, but ultimately house and home should be first priority once married.





  1. Very, very well put. It's a great book. My parents did a Bible study on it and now recomend it to everyone:)

  2. You're one of the few I've heard who really seems to grasp what the Bible means about the family arrangement. The husband is to take the lead but not be a tyrant, always showing love. The wife is to work along with her husband but she is no passive person, speaking her mind but remaining supportive to him. Although I definitely believe if there are children they should be given priority I'm not so sure I can scripturally say the wife should be a homemaker. If I were married I would prefer my wife stay home with the kids if we could afford it.

  3. i agree with this 100% although if the truth be told I don't want to be a stay at home mom - mostly because I don't really want children, but other than that, yes. Submissive and supportive but never a door mat. This is something that I am working through in my life, because even though I am not married I tend to be very flexible and easy going which can get me into trouble if I'm not careful.

  4. As a fellow Christian, I agree with what you said here. My mother worked before I was born to help my father have enough money to get a Doctorate in Ministry but after that she stayed at home to raise me and my brother.


  5. I love it when everyone agrees :). thanks for your thoughts!


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