Monday, March 11, 2013
Just a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T
The other night, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine, just random what-not. Well, I don't remember how we started talking about this, but she confided in me that before her current boyfriend. She had never done anything physical. Now, they haven't really done much, but even with the little they have done, she's not comfortable with it. She's a very sweet, innocent girl. Wanting to live her life for Christ, she knows what they're doing isn't right, but she wants to make him happy.
Why is it that so many women/girls give in to what the guy wants physically? I understand caring about the guy.. even loving him in some instances, so you want to do what makes him happy, but don't go to the level of compromising your purity for his happiness. If he really loves you back.. it will make him happy that you have enough respect for yourself to say "hey babe.. this doesn't feel right to me.. can we please just hangout?". Do whatever his hobby is, with him. Guys like a girl whose actually interested in HIM.. not obsessive and clingy, but interested in his likes and dislikes.
Y'all.. I realize I probably talk about this stuff a lot, but please don't take my words as "oh gosh.. here she goes again..". I blog what I know. I've struggled with physical purity before (still do some days), so I share what I've learned so that maybe someone else can be spared the pain. My apologies if this doesn't apply to you, I'm just sharing my life.